the object of your aggression

wow, this touched a nerve: [post 394486]

the other side of this coin is the submissive/slave/bottom who is willing to serve as the focus of anger, of aggression. laura antoniou, in her marketplace novel "the reunion", calls this a "grudge slave".

i'm fascinated by this concept.

think about it: if your particular fetish has developed out of something so nasty, so taboo, so - *angry*, what do you do with it, other than find a consenting partner? the only other option is non-consent. which sucks for everyone in society.

i've fantasized about being a grudge slave. a particular kind that doesn't need to be discussed in public (interested parties already know anyway), so i understand why someone would put themselves into such a position to receive such outright aggression. i call it aggression because it isn't always anger, although i think that's often a part of it. i don't know that i can fully articulate why this is not only conceptually "okay" with me, but why it has become fetishized for me. how well can anyone explain the true nature of their sexuality anyway?

the point is, though, that all this stuff in a vanilla world, in *most* of our society, falls into a bucket we call "wrong, scary, dangerous. [B]negative.[/B]"

but [I]my point[/I] is that [B]playing with that stuff is what we do.[/B] what does [member jazz205] call it? "that thing we do"?