it is indeed a new world. figuring in polyamory, power dynamics, gender issues, heteroflexibility, and social responsibility, it turns out i'm juggling a lot. for the most part i muddle my way forward, and on occasion realize i have no idea what the hell i'm doing, i'm just doing my best. there's not a lot of role models in this arena, and we all have to make our own way.
i think i'm taking a slight left fork in the road of polyamory, in that i'm starting to look more closely at the theory that it's not really about setting up a particular family style, as much as it is being open to the possibilities each person i run into brings with them. if i threw everyone into a big pot and called it an open family, would that suffice? in the past year i've changed my opinion about a hundred times about what it is i think i'm searching for, and maybe i should just stop searching and enjoy.
i've faced the fact that if i had a choice in the matter, i still probably would have chosen egalitarian heterosexual monogamy. as hard as that is, submissive heteroflexible polyamorous ain't such a piece of cake either.
soft focus
- luna_lux
- i adore labels. i love them. i cut them up and repaste them together again in little confetti anachronisms until i find one that looks like a gorgeous ransom note and say 'that'll fit.'
1 comment:
Hi sweetheart,
Stopping by on my travels...I enjoy your blog very much, for what is unsaid as much as what is said.
There are no rulebooks for what you're doing. I've found that there are practically no easy-to-Goggle answers to my questions about expanding my relationship to include others. Sometimes the uncertainty makes me want to hold onto my Owner with both hands in possessive, jealous fear. But I still wonder, so I keep exploring.
Best of luck to you as you do the same,
Kitten
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