choices

there are threads flying around on fetlife about what choices are possible for slaves. and threads about control, and how much control a slave can have. and threads, also, about definitions, labels, communities, and wrongness.

some notes about how it works for me. so that i don't have to say it again, i can just link to this later. and because i like lists.

1. i do not live with my owner, and there are no current plans to change this. this does not make me any less dedicated, owned, or enslaved. all it means is that i live somewhere else and miss him more. while i am ambivalent at best about this situation, i feel there are both positive and negative reprecussions. but the decision is not up to me.

2. i don't like to use the word slave, although arguably the word "property" isn't a hell of a lot different. i believe that a slave is a person who is actually enslaved - either physically or emotionally. sometimes i feel it, sometimes i don't. but what i am called is not up to me.

3. there are issues in our world that require decisions that are not sexual. they are not about who i fuck or don't fuck, not about how many orgasms i have, or about how i wear my hair, even. voting, career choice, weight loss, are all significant issues that have very little to do with sex as we usually know it. these issues are often designated to me to decide, but the final choices are still not up to me.

are you getting a general theme here?

i never said everyone had to be TPE, or that it was "better" than anything else. but it's "total". not "part". or "mostly". or "except for...".